Dear Jaimy - I have been on a 6 dates with this great guy over the past 2 months. The other night while we were talking he said that he likes me a lot. So I asked him what I needed to do to make him want to spend more time with me? His reply was let me come to you. I haven't called or texted him now in 5 days and I have not heard from him either how long should I wait before I move on and try to meet someone new or should I give him a little more time and space. - Waiting...

Dear Waiting...
That is a great question! First ask yourself what exactly you want. Do you want to casually date a guy once or a twice a week? Or do you want a relationship where you check in with each other everyday and become part of each others lives? My guess is that you wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't want the relationship. No more waiting! But if you find it hard to move on here is my suggestion... Tell him that he is a great guy and that you have really enjoyed getting to know him. However, at this point in your life you are looking for something a bit more serious. Explain that it seems like the 2 of you are in different places and wish him the best of luck. No drama, no argument just a clear message. If there is ever a chance that he is capable or interested in getting past is commitment issues than this is it. And if not than this conversation will just give you the closure you need and help you realize he was never getting there anyways. And you will be free to find a guy that can give you everything you deserve. - Jaimy

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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