I often hear both men and women say, “I am taking a break from dating!” This usually comes with a tone that sounds agitated and frustrated. But I have to tell you that this makes absolutely no sense what so ever!

If you aspire to be a good athlete do you take a break from baseball because you had a few strike outs? This is highly unlikely. In fact that athlete is more apt to work twice as hard. If the athlete did decide to take a break it would be so much harder to improve their game when they returned.

If you are so frustrated with finding true love that you are ready to quit I have a better suggestion! Work even harder at the task. Many believe it is the pool of singles that’s the problem. But quite frankly it is you! If you keep dating jerks, ending up in bad relationships and feel unsatisfied in your love life it is time to shift gears. Perhaps the act of physically going on dates needs to be set aside for a minute. Take some time to explore the mistakes you have made and what you could do differently. If that baseball player has a poor swing he needs to stop and learn a bit more about form. If a single person isn’t having a positive experience in dating they too need to learn some things from their mistakes.

But never take a break from your search for true love. If you want something bad enough you need to work hard for it! And the reward is so worth all of that effort.

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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