It is a great time to be single! I know those of you who feel like you have been single forever just want to scream at me right now. But what I am saying is that there are so many terrific ways to meet singles these days. You no longer have to rely on your parents to find you a match, hang out at crowded bars or experience painful blind dates.

Two very popular ways to find that special person are internet dating and speed dating. I am often asked, "which one is better?" They are both terrific ways to meet people! In fact, I met my husband on match.com 10 years ago! Today 1 out of every 5 couples meet online and that number is only going to get bigger.

If you are one of the many people trying to decide which one will work best for you, I can help you! My quick response is to do both. If you are truly committed to finding love then you should be in as many places as possible to do just that.
Here is the difference in a nutshell!

Internet Dating-Here is where you can find the answers to that whole big deal breaker list that you have in your head. You know those important questions like; does he want kids, does she smoke, what does he do for work and does she have a pulse? You have the luxury of looking at a few photographs too. Hopefully these include recent candid shots of the person you are about to date. On occasion for some ridiculous reason they will include pictures of their car, dog, boat, sunset, etc... What you don't get to find out is that initial and instant chemistry! We all know how great that instant chemistry feels and can assess it in just seconds of meeting someone in person.
Speed Dating-The great thing about speed dating is that you can assess that chemistry instantly without wasting time emailing back and forth. Sure those deal breakers are important but if that initial chemistry is lacking then it doesn't matter if they comply or not with your deal breaker check list. I encourage my speed daters to avoid those deal breaker questions in that five minute speed date. Just use that time to see if you have a mutual connection. And if so, you just check yes next to their name on the match card. If the connection is mutual you will each get an email with the contact information of your match and the interrogation can start at that point.

One last tip... If you are a negative person that is always convincing yourself that you will never find true love then you will create just that. Think positive about finding that special someone and I can guarantee you that your chances of finding them will increase tremendously. Now, take a break from this blog and go join match.com or register for a speed dating event at www.got5minutes.com.

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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