I am one of the many who can actually say that match.com works! I met my husband 9 years ago on this site and I even have a match.com baby who just turned 3. Why does it work so well for some and not others? The most obvious reason is attitude! Many folks have decided prior to even creating their profile that it will never work. And with that attitude they are absolutely correct! But it you can go into it with a positive attitude than these tips will make all the difference. Here goes...

1. The pics are the most important thing about this site. Everyone is looking for chemistry and not a person out there doesn't go straight for the pics. So please don't post your cat, dog, boat, sunset, car or anything else that people don't really care about. They want to see you and you within the past year. One close up face and one candid is plenty. It is not facebook so you don't need endless albums.

2. Well I said pics are the most important so it is going to take 2 tips to cover this subject. Don't pose for a pic with others in the pic. Especially if they are more attractive than you! If you are self conscious about your weight don't stand next to that friend that is a size 2. If you have to pose with someone else just be sure that you are the better looking one in the pic. This may sound harsh but I repeat...everyone is looking for that chemistry.

3. Don't write a book. Keep it simple and capture what makes you special. If you can throw something funny in there as well. But a favorite poem or speech instead of describing yourself is just distracting. And don't use the templates offered by match. It is obvious when you are doing that.

4. If you are local 4 or 5 emails over a couple of days is enough before initiating that first date. Unless you are simply looking for a pen pal. I hear so many folks complain about endless hours of emails and never getting to the date. If they don't initiate it than you need to in order not to waste time.

5. GOOGLE! Can we all agree that the word "google" is now a verb? You can find out so much about someone through a quick google search. It can also be pretty entertaining and may bring you to more pics.

Those are my top 5 tips and I followed every one of them. Have fun and if match is not working for you, there is always speed dating : )

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My next event:

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

Comments(1):

1. so much coming from a woman going through her second divorce! talk about honesty and being genuine.

   Wednesday, August 11, 2010 christine