I watched the movie "The Holiday" the other night...have you seen it? If you haven't- it's a must see! It's about two women who feel love is hopeless after terrible breakups. They need a change and swap houses with each other to get away from their lives. Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet are fantastic in this movie because they really capture all the complexities of true heartbreak. While Kate Winslet is at Cameron Diaz's house she meets a man who's about 90 years old. He makes a tiny little remark that sets her on an entirely new path of self-confidence and happiness. What did he say? "In a movie, there's a "Leading Lady" and "The Bestfriend"- you, I can tell are a leading lady, but you're acting like the best friend." Aha! Profound insight into her tangled up self point of view. Does it apply to yours?

I took this character's words to heart and thought about creating your ideal wardrobe based around the things you LOVE. Wouldn't it be fantastic if your outfit reflected your role in your life as "The Leading Lady" rather than "The Best Friend?" Best part about this is that we all have control over what we decide to wear- every single day.

We are aware of what color, what style, and what accessory makes us do a double-take in the mirror. So why aren't you wearing it? Most women keep things like old sweats, baggy t-shirts and faded prints because we feel like maybe we spent a lot of money on it, think we'll fit into after we berate our bodies to lose the extra weight, or because we feel like we'll never have money to buy clothes again. This is simply not the case. Instead, you're making room for the kind of person you envision yourself being. Who you like to be! The clothes and style that make you smile back at yourself in the mirror are exactly the ones you should be wearing!

Don't discount them if it's "too formal/professional/striking/hot/sophisticated/inappropriate for what you're doing. That is just your illusion of being undeserving of your own happiness. I really urge you to take time today to rediscover what you love wearing; what makes you smile and wear it from now on, sister! No excuses!

Love,

Your Fashion Coach

By Amanda Koss Roquemore

I am a Fashion Coach, Stylist, and Writer in Southern California. I received a bachelor degree in Fashion Merchandising from Westwood College. I write for Iconography Magazine, South Bay Woman Magazine, and Hartford Woman Online. I've recently joined forces with Examiner.com to write about fashion in Southern California. {I'm very excited!}

Fashion brings me joy because of the opportunity it has to shape lives for the better. It's always been my belief that no matter what goes on outside us, we always have the power to improve our lives through creative expression, such as fashion. I enjoy teaching women how to dress their best with the clothes, budget and shape they have. There are no limits to making your fashion dreams come true! If you'd like to work with me one-on-one, please email me to schedule a Free 30 minute consultation AmandaRoquemore@yahoo.com

When I'm not thinking about fashion trends, sales and styles, I love spending time with my husband and kitty. I love working on DIY home decorating projects and working in my yard. Yoga and bike-riding are among my favorite activities as well! I look forward to getting to know you! Feel free to email me anytime @ AmandaRoquemore@yahoo.com !

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