I remember when I first started dating Erik 10 years ago and my washing machine broke. I called him up as if it were the end of the world. I began ranting about how it was full of water and I couldn't move it. Erik calmly responded by asking if I wanted him to come help me move it to the dumpster and perhaps take me to buy a new one. His calm demeanor was quite shocking to me at first. I wanted to say, no thank you I would rather just freak out and scream on the phone to you about this for the next 10 minutes. Instead I paused and accepted his invitation to help.

This was my big epiphany with Erik. I realized I was nothing but a drama queen who was creating a huge issue over nothing. Erik was the first guy I fell hard for since my divorce and didn't want to blow this relationship. I got myself in check and Erik I went shopping for a new washing machine. Sure from time to time that little drama queen pops up. And I always remind myself of the washing machine. It helps me to diminish that unnecessary dramatic episode before it gets out of control.

So the point of the entry? If you are a drama queen or have so other annoying habit please find it sooner than later. Be willing to admit that you have a bad or annoying habit that is making you undesirable to others. In my dating business I have seen many. Below if a list of examples. Perhaps 1 or 2 of them speak to you. And if not perhaps you can offer me a new one to add to the list.
1. A "one upper"-Do you top everything your date says with a better story?
2. Bragger-Are you constantly talking about yourself?
3. Complainer-Is your glass half empty all of the time?
4. Incessant Talker-Do talk constantly when you are nervous? Perhaps you need to get comfortable with a moment of silence?
5. Gossiper- Are you sharing boring stories about your friends and family because you like to gossip?

Regardless of which one speaks you... find that annoying habit and make a resolution change it.

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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