Ever dated a someone that just started treating you like crap because they were hoping you would do the break up? Or perhaps you just started treating someone poorly because you couldn't seem to fiigure out how to end that relationship? Whatever the situation is we have all been dumped or dumped someone at some point. It stings like a bee and hurts so badly for a few days, ok sometimes even weeks! I am not talking about long term marriages but those relationships that linger on for many months and seem to get worse and worse. We rationalize staying, hoping it will get better. And we end up dumped and needing to move on. Here are some tips on how to get over this and get over it fast!

1. Come on, there are a million things that this person did that drove you nuts! Everytime you think of a happy moment and miss him, replace that thought with an annoying, miserable one. Force yourself to think of the worst memoires.
2. Remember an earlier break up that you thought you would never get over. Think about how insignificant that is in your life today. And remind yourself this too will be another one of those insignifcant events as time passes.
3. Get back out there and start flirting! And if you want to just lie in bed and bury yourself in pity, think about what he is doing. Is he lieing in bed or is he out trying to move on? Life is short and you deserve to feel better! Don't jump into the next relationship but flirt and feel great!

And my final tip is... Don't ever let one jerk convince you that you should quit dating all together. No one person should have that much power over you. If you really want to find love than you will! But you need to believe you deserve it and never give up!

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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