Matthew is getting ready for his 11th birthday. He is into many things including Facebook. I look over his shoulder as he chats with one particular girl we will call Julie (only because Matt will not be happy if I use her real name). I keep chiming in with my dating tips and realize it is no easy task to be the son of the Date Dr. And I remind myself he is 11! I should just let him be a silly kid. But still the tips seem to jump out of my mouth. These tips work for all ages. So whether you are 11 or 61 here is my advice about dating and facebook.

1. When you log in wait a minute before jumping on the chat. You may be excited to type "hey" in that little box in the bottom right hand corner of facebook, but hold off! At least pretend you have other business to care of on facebook and relax. If you wait a few minutes, Julie may even pop up with her own "hey" before you have a chance. And we all know the less eager and available we look the better it is!

2. And get off that chat after a few minutes. Don't let Julie always be the one to end the conversation first. It always feels better when we are the one that types "gotta run"!

3. Don't friend request your new love interest after just one date. If the relationship fails it gets awkward! Do we do the ultimate insult and unfriend the date if it doesn't workout? Yes we do but even better to avoid the whole thing all together.

4. The most annoying thing one can do on facebook is over post. Most find it annoying when a friend constantly cuts and pastes those ridiculous chains going around the site (cut and paste this to your status if you like Julie)...Once in a while one might really speak to you, but be selective and don't share every mundane detail of your life. You might just be hidden and not even know it!

5. Last bit of advice is not to post too many details about your dating life. If you happen to go some place really cool than by all means share it in your status. But I had a couple of old high school friends who actually reunited through facebook. It was a soap opera! From their first kiss, to falling in love to breaking up and this cycle repeated itself many time before they both got hidden.

On the positive side, facebook is a great place to meet other singles, not for an 11 year old but perhaps for you. There are some cool groups to join, reunion pages and friends of friends. Be sure to put in your status that you are single and get involved in the virtual world. You just never know where you will find them!

***Editor's Note: Jaimy has several Speed Dating events scheduled for this month at Murphy & Scarletti's in Farmington. Get the details at http://got5minutes.com/calendar/.

By Jaimy Blazynski

I am Jaimy Blazynski and I am the dating expert here in the Hartford, CT area. I remember someone asking me what qualifies me to be a dating expert to which I replied “lots of experience”.

Like many of you I was married, divorced, and a single mother for many years. And after 13 match.com dates I met my second husband. I learned a great deal through the entire experience. The most valuable lesson I learned was that attitude is everything. Ok, maybe not everything but a bad attitude can make the most attractive people look ugly!

I began this business in 2005 for 2 reasons. The first is that I want to help others learn from the mistakes I made and the challenges I have had. Everyone can find true love as long as they believe it is available to them. Change your attitude and it can change your life! Especially your love life! The second reason is because I get a rush of excitement every time I make a successful match! And we have had many. So whether you are newly married with your first baby like Melissa and Kevin, in your 40′s Like Dee and Doug, your 50′s like Darcy and Monty or my over 60 couple Rita and Harley you all have one thing in common. You are the success stories of Got 5 Minutes? that make me smile every time I think of you! I always say I will never stop until I have married everyone of! I look forward to meeting all of you at one of our speed dating events.

Jaimy Blazynski is The Date Doctor. You can hear her every Friday afternoon at 5:45 on 96.5 WTIC with Damon Scott. She can also be seen on Better CT at 3:00 PM on Fridays. Jaimy has given dating advice to thousands of people. Let her answer your dating questions

You can contact Jaimy at 860-324-6679 or info@got5minutes.com and she happily gives free advice on her website http://got5minutes.com/

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