Today I was talking with a dating coaching client who was telling me about a friend who is on the Bitter-Bus. What? I never heard of that before. What a fabulous description for being negative about dating!

Here are five tips I share with women dating over 40 or dating after divorce to get you off the Bitter Bus and on to finding a new and better man:

1) If you hear yourself saying negative things about dating and men, wake up! Stop yourself the moment you realize the bus is rolling and you are on it. Change the subject and move on to happier thoughts.

2) Don't be negative with friends or family who are trying to meet new people. Instead, be supportive because you'd like to see them happy - wouldn't you?

3) Don't assume a particular singles event or meeting method wont’ work because you tried it one time. You could have a bad experience again, but you could also meet the right person so give yourself a break.

4) When someone else has good luck at finding a mate, that is evidence it's possible! Don’t think others are luckier than you are. Why not think, "If that person can find a partner, so can I!"

5) When you generalize, it hurts you. Not all men are liars, cheats, non-committal, etc. There are always exceptions to every rule and who even says that terrible poor behavior is the rule? Everyone is not the same - thankfully or we'd all like the same man!

Stop riding the Bitter Bus. Take the first step to shift gears and your attitude to improve opportunities for finding a mate. As I tell my dating coaching clients, feeling positive, happy, and confident will make you far more attractive.

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Ronnie Ann Ryan woke up on her 40th birthday and realized she might be single for the rest of her life. It was at that moment she decided to turn things around. After dating 30 men in 15 months, she met her husband Paul. And then she knew that if she could do it – others could too – which was why she became a Dating Coach and founded It’s Never Too Late for Love.  Her mission is to share her knowledge and advice on dating with everyone who wants it and is ready to find love.

Her book, MANifesting Mr. Right: It’s Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want has received high praise and is treasured by many as one of the best guidebooks on dating. In it, Ronnie provides the dating tips and strategies that lead her and over 1,000 others to jumpstart or accelerate their search for love. (Check out the right hand side bar to get your copy.) She has been interviewed by Sally Jesse Raphael, appeared on NBC News, Fox News, and ABC’s Chronicle in Boston, MSN.com, MORE.com and many other features in newspaper, magazine and web articles in the US and internationally.

In addition, Ms. Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach, marketing consultant, and writer. She is a speaker and workshop leader who focuses on marketing topics and personal development, and classes for Adult Education programs around New England. Ronnie presents highly effective programs packed with tools that really work with an energetic and humorous style that captivates audiences.

Ronnie has worked in Marketing for 20+ years with Fortune 500 companies, agencies, small businesses, and individuals to develop strategies and implement programs. Ms. Ryan holds an MBA from Northeastern University, a BA from the University of Connecticut , was certified as a Coach (CCC) by Comprehensive Coaching University, and earned her coaching certificate from Coaches Training Institute. She spent seven years in marketing at General Foods (Kraft Foods) and has been consulting since 1990.

Ronnie has multiple websites including:

www.DatingforKeepsExpo.com  ; www.MANifestingMrRight.com ; www.NeverTooLate.biz ;

She can be reached at: 203-877-3777.

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